As a woman i can't speak for all, but who i know. We are emotional, calculated, nosey, maybe abit needy. Definately head strong! I lack confidence but i know when i'm right. ha! Anyway i decided to interview a man, not rich and famous. No fancy name. A "normal" guy. My aim was to try and dig a little into how he thinks....see's....does... I'm not sexist! But males do tend to have a different thought, feeling process. And most don't trust easily. I'm going to do this using Q & A. I hope its worth the read, if not i'm sorry to disappoint!! Hoping in some way women get an understanding and some may find it relatable...Enjoy! Q- Why do you think men hate commitment? A- I don't think they do, but to put an answer to it. It's like you want the relationship but you don't want to let go of your freedom. Meaning; Go out whenever we like, do what we want whenever we want and not be hounded home. Q- What do you think men have against communication? (calling, talking, opening up.) A- Majority of men have a aplha male mindset, to do with talking about emotions. And you don't want to appear weak to anyone. I suppose it boils back down to, not been told what to do/pestered about time. You always get for example..If you go out with your mates and say your partner rings, or keeps texting, you get stick for it. "Proper under thumb" "Put your phone away, your with us" "I wouldn't let my Mrs tell me when i'm going home" You don't want it to come across as though your being told what to do, its embarassing. Q- Do you think your life ends when you get married? A- No, it just changes. But it's something you hear all the time like "That's it now" "Ball and Chain" and i think personally, people that say that. That aren't married, are jealous. And people that are married and say it, are generally just joking. People take what they want from it, i suppose that relates back to commitment. What i mean by jealous, is not that their jealous personally. Their jealous of the time their losing with their friend.. Your life doesn't end, your just making new memories with someone you love. Q- Do you tell your Mum everything? A- No, in the past i did. But i think when your younger, your looking for someone to help solve your problems. As you get older you tend not to, because it's your own buissness. It's just part of growing up. Q- Do you notice if we (women) gain weight? A- Yes, but it's not an issue if it's someone you actually love. I think it's only an issue if your with someone for the wrong reasons. Obviously unless it's health related. Q- Do you think about your Ex-Girlfriend? A- No. At the beginning of a new relationship, yes. If it was pretty recent or long term.. Your not necessarily missing them, it's just they were a part of your life and i suppose you do compare. I.e; scenarios/personality. Q- How does it feel to get kicked in the balls? A- I don't think a woman would ever understand that. Just as men wouldn't with labour and period pains. It feels like an exposed nerve being squeezed as hard as it possibly could be squeezed. It makes you feel physically sick! In that much pain! Done!!!!!! I hope you got/get something from it? Thanks for reading :) J.Sullivan
Hi! if you've read the title, it's pretty much self explanatory. & INCLUDING MYSELF, were all here for the same thing. I'm going to think and type and then probably hit publish in impulse so please don't mind the mistakes. Right then :D I'm 22, in part time work. A Mother of 2 & A Wife. I work 24 hours a week split into 2 12 hour shifts, not too bad you say? I'm unbeleivably ambitious and love to learn, i didn't in my younger years but now i understand knowledge gets you places. I wish i caught on to that back then but better late than never. When i get something in my head i tend to go straight for it or want it here and now, impatient and stubborn some might say. So i've done some courses to get me places but it doesn't seem to work out, or i get half way to where i want to be and flap, so it falls threw. My stuck in a rut issue came about after my son, like i wanted to get myself a better job show my kids look i can still do this, even though i'm doing it while your here rather than before. I wrote it all out, got it all set in my head, then i came off maternity leave. Of course i returned to work, bills to pay, mortgage and now 2 children. There's my rut, i can't quit work that would be stupid, yet i want the oppurtunity's but i can't get to them whilst in my job. I've had 2 chances of new work, one was way too many hours the other fell through (my fault) now my third option....it's new but this is probably for my line of work a dream job. Mostly surrounded by Germs (my worst night mare) but i feel confident in my Job, that i'm good at it. You'll notice a P1 in the title, take that as part 1. I've only just come up with it seems like a good idea, that way i can write how i get on! Thanks for reading! J.Sullivan.
If i could record the memories of the situations i've seen and been put in. If you could see what you said and did, how it affected the people and the outcomes. For every single person, blood or not. When you pull and rip and tear every good thing from that person, everything they ever found hope in. You shatter their life's, you steal there health, you torture there minds and you control their thoughts. You live your life already with regret, mistakes, accidents. You found a soul only beginning that journey and pulled away at it til it had no hope, no where to run. Not even a home to rest. You did that to escape your own reality's, making someone else's issues a problem to escape your own shame. J.Sullivan
I wasn't meant to find you this way. But then, what beats more than the best unexpected day. I saw your eyes, they told me something the others don't know. Is it too cliche to tell you, how beautiful they glow. I wish this day would never end. Your now my more than friend. J.Sullivan
It's the morning we slept three hundred and sixty five days for. If i could wish for anything, it would never be anything else more. We arrive, and blink twice. This is home. Where everything feels nice. J.Sullivan
For every ambition i have, your there. You fight my corner expecting nothing in return. Simply because you care. For the blind to the eye battles, that's trapped my mind for the day. You take the lead and guide me away. For the mood swings i didn't keep down. You still stuck around. For the lack of conversation on a long day. The hope in your eyes. My heart screams, please stay. J.Sullivan